Friday’s French – Reflexive verbs

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I don’t usually write about grammar. I learnt French at high school in Australia where we did a lot of grammar in both English and French and, believe it or not, it was something that appealed to me, a bit like maths somehow. However I have some friends who are having difficulty with the reflexive so I thought I might try to help.

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We don’t have reflexive verbs in English, of course, which is probably why they pose problems to people learning French.

We wake up in the morning, get up, get dressed, comb or brush our hair and brush our teeth, without any help from anyone else and we wouldn’t dream of saying “I woke myself up, I got myself up, I got myself dressed, I combed my hair myself and I brushed my teeth myself”.

Yet that is what you have to say in French, je me suis réveillée, je me suis levée, je me suis habillée, je me suis peignée et je me suis brossé les dents.

I think most people get the concept, but have trouble organising where to put all those pronouns, especially when there is a second verb involved. I’ve been thinking about it and maybe the best rule of thumb is that the me, te or se and the nous, vous and se all have to be right next to the first person pronoun: je me, tu te, il/elle se, nous nous, vous vous, ils/elles se.

So if we go back to our verb from last week, s’embrouiller, we can’t say J’étais m’embrouillé because the me has to be next to the je. The sentence becomes Je m’étais embrouillé, although we’re much more likely to say Je me suis embrouillé (unless the second part of the sentence requires the imperfect, but that’s something else again).

Now, just to make things a bit more complicated, you need to make those past participles agree. Even the French often get this wrong, I’d like to point out. I always have my little Grevisse Le français correct so I can check if necessary.

So, the basic rule is that, with the auxiliary être, the past participle has to agree with the direct object if it’s before the verb. Well, this is the case here because me, te, se and so on are direct objects (or COD as the French say – complément d’objet direct). Je me suis coupée, ils se sont blessés, nous nous sommes habillées (if we’re all female) and nous nous sommes habillés (if there is at least one male).

On the other hand, in the case of je me suis brossé les dents, since it’s not me that I’m brushing, but my teeth, there is no agreement. . It’s because the direct object is after the verb. Other examples are elle s’est coupé le bras, nous nous sommes lavé les mains.

There are a few exceptions to this rule, but, frankly, unless you’re writing to be published, I wouldn’t worry too much : se nuire, se parler (parler à soi), se plaire (plaire à soi), se ressembler, se rire, se sourire, and a few more you’ve probably never heard of and will never need to use, i.e. ils se sont plu l’un à l’autre.

I hope you’re not too confused!

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7 Responses to Friday’s French – Reflexive verbs

  1. Susan Walter says:

    Well, we’ll see how it goes. Thanks for the good explanation, but it’s remembering that the wretched things are reflexive that’s half the battle. Railway stations and post offices that ‘find themselves’ over there, on the right, indeed…

    What with this and doing some exercises on manquer à earlier today I’ll be C2 in no time (or not…)

  2. Rosemary Kneipp says:

    Yes, I agree, railway stations “finding themselves” are not very logical! I’m sure you’ll be in C2 very soon.

  3. Gara in Sydney says:

    It’s all very logical and easy to follow with the written word – but it’s in the middle of endeavouring to have a conversation, trying to get it all together with tenses, gender, word order etc that is hard! Thanks for your clear and concise explanation.

  4. breadispain says:

    Ah yes, pesky little things. I had quite a bit of trouble with this when I was first learning!

  5. Frédéric says:

    You’ve summed it up pretty well! It’s not that complicated really, only takes some use to. Exceptions aside because like you said, they’re not used that often.

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